Firstly, I’d like to take the opportunity to wish you all a Happy New Year and hope that you’ve had a great time with your family and friends over the holiday season – my wish for you is that 2018 is your most awesome year yet! You’ve got 8,760 hours ahead of you during 2018, what are you going to do with yours? What if you could realise that career change? start that business? increase your income? travel? find that special someone? get fit? – all of these have the same start point, and that is you!
Have you set New Year’s resolutions?
So; how did you set yours? Did you pause and reflect? did you jump right in? Did you listen to everyone else’s and pinch the best? (I’ve done that too!), Did you focus on what you want (or what you don’t want)? Did you think about what went well in 2017 that you want to build on? Did you pause to consider what you learnt along the way that you can take into 2018? Did you consider what You really, really want for you in 2018?
If like many you rushed to select some New Year’s resolutions without huge amounts of thought, then maybe now is the time to
6 NLP tips to help you write better goals …
- Be Specific & write it down! – What do
you youwant? – really spend time pondering over this, ask yourself some great questions to get really precise about it. Get it committed to paper – write it down, draw it or find images that represent it. Be as specific as you can about what you want and by when you will have achieved it e.g. 1st September 2018. Get clear on how will you know when you’ve achieved it? What will you see, hear or feel when you’ve got it?
- ‘Watch your language’: Use positive language to state your specific goal. Ensure your goal specifies the outcome that you want – not what you don’t want. You want to be focused on for example getting fit and healthy (if
currentlyyou have written that you want to lose weigh, you are focus on onexactly what you don’t want – weight!). If that’s you, it’s simple to fix, just relook at your goal and rephrase it into what you want.
- Know your “why” to help with motivation: a phrase I heard from Ray Higdon is: “pain pushes
you,until a vision pulls you” – it’s all about the different types of motivation. People are either motivatedaway from something they don’t want (pain ),or towards something that they do want (the latter brings much much more consistent results and success). Be honest with yourself, is there a massive ‘why’ behind your goalthat excites and delights you if you imagine having already achieved it? – if not, is it the right goal? have you pondered over your reason for wanting it – is there a big ‘why’ there that you’ve yet to discover?
- Take Action! – do something every day towards your goal (no matter how small) – nothing is going to happen unless you do something! TOP TIP: when I go to bed at night I ask myself; what did I do today towards my goal? What did I learn? – 2 simple questions that allow me to reflect for a few moments as I close my eyes and drift off to the land of nod …. (and if you’re the type of person who likes to beat themselves up mentally during this type of exercise the next bullet point is particularly for you!)
- There is no failure, only feedback: none of us
areperfect – and in my model of the world there is no such thing as failure, there is only feedback – which we can learn from. Many people make the mistake of thinking that they’ve ‘failed’ and therefore abandon their goal the first time they get feedback that perhaps they simply need to learn from or reflect upon. TOP TIP: once you’ve set your goal, and you’re out of the starting blocks, be flexible if things aren’t working out in the way you had hoped – if what you’re doing isn’t working, tweak something, do some thingelse – simples!
- Accountability – make a promise: is there someone that you’d never break
promiseto? EVER? – then that’s the person you need to tell about your goal(s) for this year. Chat tothem, discuss how you’re going to do it, what are the steps, and ask them if they’d hold you accountable – what frequency will you check in with each other? How will you update them …
The 5 principles
Finally, you may like to watch this short YouTube Video I created
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